A Recipe For Intellectual Intimacy

Is there anything quite like a well placed question? One that undresses your performance and proves to you that you are seen from the inside out?

Working in IT trained me well in the art of inquiry. Any help desk veteran will tell you that an unspoken part of the job is dealing with people’s intellectual insecurities (i.e. trying not to make people feel stupid for doing stupid things).

You learn to ask the right questions, how to let people come to their own conclusions and how to be merciful with their dignity. While I initially found that annoying, conducting the intellect of another revealed itself as intimacy in disguise.

Underneath fancy titles, I often found a regular-degular human embarrassed for not knowing the difference between shutting down their computer and restarting it (I was not always merciful with that request).

The Recipe

The sexiest question to me is one where genuine curiosity provokes and evokes the receiver. Curiosity is a lost, delicious art. I’ve taken the liberty to cultivate a few ingredients for you to play with. Use responsibly.