I have a thing for Sabrina Kyle (aka Catwoman). I adore the sexual tension between her and Batman, but that’s another story for another time. Really, what I love is that Sabrina wants money. She wants beautiful things. She wants luxury. She wants access. She is a woman with appetite and she doesn’t apologize for that.
We know what it looks like when a man wants something. We recognize the focus. The hunger. The willingness to risk comfort, reputation, relationships, and certainty for the possibility of getting closer to the thing he’s pursuing. But when that same energy appears in a woman it tends to create a different reaction. Why?
Why are we so familiar with desire when it wears a masculine face and so suspicious of it when it wears a feminine one?
Why do we celebrate hunger, ambition, and relentless pursuit in men, but often ask women to soften, justify, or sanitize those same impulses?
And then there’s a more intimate question. Even when a woman knows what she wants, why can it feel so difficult to want it fully? Why is it often easier to desire indirectly, to wait, to hope, to be chosen, than to inhabit the raw certainty of “I want this, and I’m going after it”? What happens in a woman’s body when she stops asking for permission and starts trusting her own appetite?
This week’s conversation with Ashanti Unpunishable Woman explores those questions through the lens of desire, money, religion, nervous system conditioning, power, pleasure, and the invisible contracts many women inherit without realizing it.
As you listen to the episode, I invite you to notice what happens in your own body when these questions arise.
What do you want?
Not what feels reasonable. Not what you think you’re allowed to want. Not what would make other people comfortable. What do you actually fucking want?
I’d love to hear what comes up for you in the comments *hands virtual mic* 🎤 ⬇️
