What's Your Villain Story?
I’m noticing a trend in my digital community that mirrors my life. Collectively, a lot of us are in our “villain” era. As overused as the term might be, I absolutely ✨adore✨ it.
The villain era is about divine disobedience, not harm. It’s an energetic correction meant to reclaim what was stolen from a well meaning, genuine being. Those of us in our villain era are reconnecting to appetite, sovereignty, will + the right to enjoy the experience of our bodies. I love that for us.
I’ll be digitally hosting a guided journaling experience designed to help you make the descent into your villain + integrate those strengths. This is the first time I’ll be doing something like this publicly and I’m really excited to go on this adventure with you.
If you are already subscribed to my Substack, you’ll get the experience in your inbox. Feel free to join me on Instagram, TikTok + Youtube to participate in the discussions that happen there.
(Note: my comment section is a surprisingly great place to find other deep thinkers and feelers…you’re people are outchea fr).
✍️ Your Villain Origin Story
In every villain I know of, there is something in their backstory that gave birth to their POV. So I want to give you something (uncomfy) to reflect on that will point you to inner gold.
Your reflection is: What is something you had to lose in order to survive your childhood?
This question might punch you in the face. But metabolizing it lets something very valuable surface in your conscious mind. Naming what you lost, gives you the opportunity to know what your body needs to grieve + what it needs to be given back.
To survive my childhood, I had to lose my voice. It became a thick, swallowed thing. When I was alone I would write, sing + think aloud. Other than that, it was not safe to be known. Understanding, tenderness and acceptance was not on the menu in my life.
I didn’t find the fullness of my voice again until my thirties. And I’m still learning.
🎯 Your Challenge Today
Spend 5 minutes with yourself + journal on the question I gave you. Whip out your phone, notebook, tablet, or video record your thoughts and feelings. It might be uncomfortable. I hope it is. Strategic discomfort is my favorite medicine. Tell me what you found in the comments below 👇
My authenticity, that includes my self respect, my voice, the way I expressed myself, my very own opinion. I learned that to be seen means to be in trouble so I became quiet, suppressed my tears and even my laughter became quiet.
It all changed for the better but age 28 to 33 was a hell of a ride of unlearning stuff. Today I feel blessed but still struggle to allow myself to be seen.
I found that it was not necessarily something I had to loose, but was often suppressed... My voice.
It was surrounded by the "children should only be seen and not heard," yet I'm naturally an outspoken person, especially when it came to myself.
Over the years, I've realized it wasn't only a "child thing," it's also a "woman thing."
I'm going to *play* with this prompt some more because it's causing me to reflect on the past and see where things are still showing up differently in the present.